I blogged a few months ago about the trials and tribulations we were facing in our attempts to rid our lives of pacifiers for good. I was taking a gradual approach with P&G (read: very gradual. Snail’s pace, really).
And then we went to the dentist for their 2-year cleaning.
The dentist started with great news: P&G’s teeth were in excellent shape thanks to our daily brushing. The bad news: P’s teeth weren’t touching when he closed his mouth. Although G actually was using a pacifier more than P (who was only using them at night and nap at that point), the dentist said that he was probably sucking on them so much harder to cause this to occur (interestingly, G had no such issue). Their dentist said it was common in kids that use pacis – but if we didn’t stop soon and he continued on (“until he was 5 or 6″ she said) he may need surgery to correct it. The word surgery was all I needed to hear.
That day when we got home, I threw all of the pacifiers in a ziplock bag. Every single one found in every nook and cranny of the apartment.
I told the kids at nap time that we needed to give them away to the CASA children in need, whom we were, incidentally, baking cookies for later that day. G, fascinated with babies, gave an empathetic nod when I translated it to “other babies need them”. When I put P&G down that day, and for the next three days, G cried and stayed up longer than normal saying “Where paci go? Paci goo!!” (she had already forgotten about the babies in need). P made one little whimper that first day and I never heard from him again about his paci. Who knew it would be so easy with him? The only problem was that with G staying up and crying/yelling about her lost paci, she was waking him up. In fact, she was literally saying “Pahkah wake up, wake up! Where paci go?”.
I had many friends suggest we introduce the pacifier fairy, who was to come in the middle of the night and take them away. But I had some problems with this (no offense to those who did/do use the paci fairy and have had success, my issues are purely personal). 1. The tooth fairy is coming soon to take teeth, and I want them to look forward to fairies, instead of begrudge them for stealing their prized pacis. 2. They were both a little young yet to understand the concept of a fairy. Santa was still a scary/weird guy with a beard this year.
So while we ended up ultimately having the best success with giving them up cold turkey, I’ve noticed a pattern over the past two years. Any kind of transition for the kids has taken about 3 days. Getting rid of the bottles, sleeping through the night in their cribs, pacifiers, etc.
To anyone going through a transition out of anything in parenthood, I feel for you. It can be so difficult, not only on the children, but I’ve now discovered, almost always on the parents as well (at the very least, our sleep almost always suffers during any transitional phase). Would love to hear from you! How did you ultimately get rid of the pacifiers?